Let’s face it! Do you ever feel tired and out of energy? Have you considered how your energy is leaking from you and leaving you empty? Our minds are so powerful and our thoughts play a large role in how we view our world. Our thoughts are the foundation to how we live and think. Life is either good or bad according to our belief system. We can control our thoughts and become a leader of our thoughts! I encourage you to pay attention to your thoughts first thing in the morning. If you keep them positive, your day will likely be more productive and cheerful.
How can you find more positivity in your life?
- Change a negative thought to a positive thought
- Surround your life with positive people and events
- Do activities that make you happy
- Cherish the simple pleasures in life–there are many out there
- Be around people that make you feel good
- Love yourself unconditionally–there is only one YOU!
- Detach from negative people and events when possible
We can get so much support from positive people, but some people like drama and are energy vampires. They enjoy the attention they receive being a victim or creating chaos. We all know people who are like this. As a very sensitive person, who dislikes drama and chaos, I have to set boundaries with these kind of people. It’s not that they are bad. I believe all people are good, but some are frightened and act out of fear. These kind of people can “suck” out your energy in no time. They want to tell you about all the drama in their life or they are continuously negative, which leaves you feeling fatigued and depleted. While we all have our “bad” days, we need to keep things in prospective. So what can you do to help yourself from getting “sucked in” by energy vampires and negative thoughts?
First, notice how you are feeling. If you are feeling uncomfortable around a certain person, that is a sign that your energy is being compromised. This is a time to notice and take action! Everyone deserves to be happy and respected. If you are trying to grow personally or spiritually, you may want to evaluate the people you want in your life and environment. While you may not have a choice in some matters, you can choose your companions and friends wisely. You also have a choice in your thoughts. If you catch yourself thinking negatively, imagine placing your negative thoughts in a helium balloon and releasing it so it can be removed from you. Bring in positive and nurturing thoughts that support you.
Second, it takes courage to “cut-off” people who continue to barrage you with their drama and chaos. I encourage supporting people who need an “ear” or emotional support. We all need to take responsibility and be accountable for 100% of our lives. So, when a person is not willing to be responsible and take appropriate actions for their life, they are willing to stay in a place that may not be beneficial to them. I realize that we all “slip” sometimes–even I fall short sometimes and get “de-railed”. I am far from perfect and I have gotten caught up in other people’s drama schemes by trying to help them, while they are not taking any responsibility for their own lives. Rescuing people does not help them if they are willing to stay a victim of their own life.
None of us know how long we will be on this earth and how life will unfold each day. However, we have a lot of power in having positive thoughts and friends. I am sharing a wonderful story that reminds me I have a choice in my life–to be happy or to be unhappy. I chose to being happy and be responsible for my life. Life is good.
Good Wolf Bad Wolf
A traditional Native American story describes a boy who was feeling angry and upset at an injustice, who goes to his old Grandfather for advice. The Grandfather tells the boy that he, too has felt these feelings of hate and anger. The Grandfather shares that he has also realized how these feelings have no effect on his enemy, but they do cause him great pain.
“It is as if I have two wolves living inside me,” says the Grandfather. “One is good and does no harm. He lives in harmony with all around him and does not take offense when no offense was intended. He will only fight when it is right to do so, and in the right way.”
“But the other wolf,” Grandfather continues, “fights everyone, all the time, for no reason. The smallest thing will send him into a fury. He cannot think because his anger and rage are so great; however for all its fury, his anger changes nothing.
“Sometimes it is hard to live with these two wolves inside me, for both of them try to dominate my spirit.”
The boy looks into his Grandfather’s eyes and asks, “Which one wins, Grandfather?”
His grandfather replies, “Whichever one I feed.”