We all experience miserable life experiences from time to time. We may get a divorce, a spouse lets us down or we absolutely hate our job. I could go on and on about miserable experiences, however, I would rather share my experience with you about “overcoming”. When you are able to “own” your old stories, instead of your old stories “owning” you, empowerment and liberation prevails. It is that simple. Why live in misery, when you can feel better about your life and your circumstances. Let’s go ahead and jump in and take action to “overcome” the misery we experience at times.
First, every experience in your life is a growing opportunity for you. I had an experience a couple of years ago where I felt another person had demeaned me after they asked me what I had been up to lately. I then shared with this person some of the rougher parts of my week. Their comments back to me were very harsh and cut me to threads at the time. I actually cried because those comments made me feel so small and unappreciated. I later realized that I had received a “gift” from this person because the experience reminded me of being a young child and getting a verbal lashing from my grandmother. My grandmother was very stern and had grown up in an orphanage. She was a very good person, but gave very tough love to me. I never realized that I had unresolved issues with my grandmother. The experience of receiving unkind and cutting words helped me to realize I needed to heal the past with my grandmother. What an eye-opener and a gift for me! I made peace with my grandmother, who has been dead for many years. I no longer get as “triggered” by unkind people. I fixed that problem.
Two, my life felt out of control and I was barely keeping up with my own self-care. When you work too much and neglect taking care of yourself—you are going to pay a high price. Your mental and physical health may begin to decline. I experienced this myself when I ended up in the VA Mental Health ward for three days. I neglected myself and wore myself out working too many hours on my two court cases against the Veteran Affairs. The stress and my own neglect on self-care got me a three day stay in the Mental Health ward. Not fun and the food really sucked there too! Today, I schedule in self-care in my daily calendar. I meditate, pray, get massages, receive energy work from a friend, and fit in the best thing I can afford to do, that helps me when I need it.
Three, we always have choices in our life. Have you ever looked back and realized you may have not made a good choice? We all do! For example, I had a consultation on the phone the other day with a female who had “bought in” to the fact that she should follow her parent’s advice for her career path. This was a truly gifted lady who wanted to work more in the “arts” and not work a boring job just for the benefits. She was suffering from so much guilt and wanted the freedom to be herself and work in jobs that were more to her taste. As children we may become conditioned by our parents who really love us and want the best for us. However, when we become adults, we are giving away our “personal power” when we let others control our lives. Most of us have been guilty of this at one time or another. I use to give away my “personal power” all the time by trying to fit in with others or by trying to please others too much. Today, it is much easier for me to “catch” myself before I give away my “personal power”. I have my own choices to make and I am 100% accountable to myself. I encourage you to look at how you have given away your own “personal power” and make a decision to love and respect yourself more.
Fourth, can you think of someone who takes advantage of you or someone who is always complaining? Don’t they just suck the energy out of you? Some people call them Energy Vampires. As I said earlier, we all get to make choices in our lives. I found the best way to handle these kind of people is to set boundaries in our lives. You don’t have to let another person abuse you or make you their sounding board. Setting healthy boundaries with another person can be as easy as telling a negative person that you would rather not hear them complain about their life all the time. You could ask them to start telling you positive aspects of their life or avoid them as much as possible. I often do this when I experience constant negative outbursts from people. I also enjoy reading and recommend “Assertiveness for Earth Angels”, which is a book from Doreen Virtue. This book describes many different kinds of personalities people have and how to become more assertive with each one.
Five, you must show up for your life. If you are just riding the roller coaster of life and you are not in control, it is time to be accountable to yourself. If your spending is out of control, get professional help. If you can’t stand up for yourself, hire a life coach or hypnotherapist who can help you become more empowered in your life. The worst thing you can do is think you cannot afford it. The real truth is you cannot afford not to get help. The real expense could come in the form of debt that financially drains you or an expensive divorce that drains you financially and emotionally. You must invest in yourself and your life. I do—I work with a business coach, who also has a coach and so on and so on….. You always want to work with someone reputable that is doing better than you are at the time. This way you are learning and growing. It has really paid off for me in so many ways. I have made sacrifices to work with a coach so I could achieve the results I wanted, in a much faster manner than if I had done it on my own. It was well worth it and I encourage you to invest in yourself so you can obtain the results you want in a faster manner. My life is now happier, more peaceful, and I am excited to be a Life Coach and Hypnotherapist, who gets to help others become empowered. We all deserve to have happy and have empowered lives.
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