I remember my business coach telling me, “You have to believe in yourself more than others believe in you”, when I first started working with her last year. Everyone experiences self-doubt at times. Even I do sometimes. I remember when I first spoke out against the prohibited personnel actions going on in the Veteran Affairs agency several years ago. As soon as I filed charges against my management, I experienced severe work place bullying and retaliation. At this time, I was also trying to encourage a good friend of mine from committing suicide due to their own workplace bullying.
My troubles began building as I was trying to down-size and sell my house. My house flooded two times and my insurance company dropped me after paying me back for repairs of nearly $30k. Now, the stress of all of this was starting to overwhelm me and I was feeling very discouraged at this time. I had so much self-doubt at the time and wondered if I could conquer all my goals. It took about nine months and a lot of up-grades to sell my house. The house and property were very nice, but would appeal to only someone who loved being on the side of a hill and loved to garden—I mean a lot of gardening! I thought that my troubles could not get any worse and then the Veteran Affairs disregarded my doctor’s recommendation of being allowed to work from my home computer. I refused to go back to the Veteran Affairs, to a hostile work environment and my management cut off my pay. Mind you, I was paying for an attorney and living hand-to-mouth at the time.
The story has a great ending! My troubles and self-doubt were conquered. I settled with the Veteran Affairs in March 2014. One week after settling with the Veteran Affairs, I became a Life Coach and now show people how to become empowered. As a Life Coach, I don’t provide the solutions, but help people to realize where they are “stuck” in their lives so they can get “unstuck”. Once they see what is holding them back, I am able to assist them with reaching their goals. This is what empowerment is about. Life is full of choices and it’s up to us to choose wisely. So, how do you believe in yourself more?
First, you must take 100% accountability in your life. If you are selling yourself short—stop! Be responsible and make sure you are being accountable in everything you do in this life. When you know you are being responsible and honest with yourself, it’s hard not to believe in yourself and what you are doing. If you don’t like your job—change jobs! Own up to the mistakes you make, but don’t beat yourself up! Learn from your mistakes and make the right action to grow from them. I learned that I did not have to earn four degrees (after I had earned them) to impress my dead grandmother who had a PhD. I was smart, without even earning a degree.
Second, take a good look at yourself in the mirror. Are you your own best friend or worst enemy? If you are cringing to look at yourself and realize you have low self-esteem, take steps to improve your self-esteem. Lose weight, exercise, go to a support group for help or reach out to a modality that helps you “shift” out of your old patterns or belief system that has been holding you back. Life coaching and hypnotherapy are excellent ways to help with confidence and breaking old patterns. It saved my life and now I do it to help others so they can feel better about themselves and have more confidence.
Third, no matter what you faith is, you will find so many benefits in asking for the help you need. I use to ask God to please “fix” things for me. Now, I ask God to please help me to become the person I need to become, so I can handle/manage things better in my life. I have seen so many “signs” in my life, which tell me I am not alone and I am much loved. I will find a white feather out of the ordinary and last night my stand-up fan turned on by itself. These are “signs” to me that I am much supported and never alone on this earth—never. These “signs” get my attention and gently remind me to believe in myself and know I am always supported. We all have the ability to see “signs” and know we are loved. Sometimes, we just have to slow down and pay attention. We are all on this earth for a reason and we must believe in ourselves so we can fulfill our destinies. We can do this when we fully believe in ourselves and realize what we are capable of doing on this earth. Each of us are very powerful in a meaningful way.
I would be happy to explain to you how life coaching and/or hypnotherapy can help you to believe more in yourself. Book a complimentary 20 minute session with me at www.DawnMarieWestmoreland.com/contact